What To Do About Weight Loss Saboteurs?


Weight loss saboteurs are unfortunately common (as well as Life Saboteurs in general!).

I’ve had it happen to me.

Some people would make snide comments about my food choices or imply that I would not be able to keep the weight off. They would sometimes offer me junk food and then be angry when I declined it. The bottom line was that they hated being overweight, were angry and frustrated with themselves, and projected their anger onto me.

Ideally, our friends and family would support us in our efforts to lose weight and be healthier. But sometimes, those closest to you — those you need the most help from — may actually try to cause you to fail at weight loss by undermining your success.

Why it Happens:

Sometimes it’s the person you least expect who attempts to sabotage your weight loss — your spouse, a sibling or your best friend. While this situation can happen for different reasons, it is quite likely that the saboteur finds themselves threatened by your efforts to lose weight.

Here are some scenarios where someone may be reacting out of fear or insecurity:

  •   Friends may think you want to change your life in other ways — maybe you’ll be leaving them out of your “new and improved” circle of friends along with your new, healthy lifestyle.
  • It forces a figurative mirror up to themselves. It makes them look at their lives, and the choices they have made, that they don’t want or are not ready to face.
  • Your spouse may be jealous of or dislike the attention you are getting from other people.
  •   A family member may resent the time you spend exercising or preparing healthy foods (particularly if they partake of neither) when you could be spending time with them.
  •   A friend may miss her “partner in crime” if you often ate together or shared “bad” foods.

So, how do you know a weight loss saboteur when you meet one?

Here are some clues:

Weight loss saboteurs may…

  • Urge you to eat sweet or fattening foods.
  •  Undermine your efforts by making negative comments, such as: “No one ever keeps the weight off!” or “You’ll never make your goal weight. You always quit.”
  •   Continually offer you second helpings of food despite the fact that you say you are no longer hungry.
  •   Keep a watchful eye on everything you eat, make snide comments, or check the fridge or food packages to see if you have eaten “bad” foods in their absence.
  •   Be overly critical of your weight loss methods.
  •   Discourage you from getting regular physical activity.
  •   Belittle or make fun of you.

What to do about it:

If you find that someone in your life fits these characteristics, it is likely you are dealing with someone who — consciously or unconsciously — does not want your weight loss efforts to work. It is important to recognize if someone is making your weight loss efforts harder and not easier; not acknowledging this will only lead to failure and resentment in your relationship. After all, weight loss changes a lot more than just your dress size and you may have to change the way you relate to your loved ones if this becomes a problem.

You must learn to put yourself at the top of the priority list and never let anyone undermine your goals!

Have you fell victim to a Diet Saboteur? How did you handle it? Please share in the comment section below!

7 Comments on “What To Do About Weight Loss Saboteurs?

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  4. Ultimately, we as individuals must become steadfast in out own beliefs with respect to food, and do what it takes. I had to learn a great deal about food’s effects on the body, the interaction of the two. I (the man of this house) had to take over all of the routine cooking, food shopping, etc, to survive. I had to learn to ignore people pushing wrong food programs, and wrong information on diet, of which there are many. I had to write my two rules, no exorphins and no (very little) acellular carbohydrates.

    • I agree Fred. I make my needs known and make no apologies about it. I also have to set up my environment to succeed. I know what works for my body and I don’t suffer food-pushers lightly anymore! I have had my mind swayed by soooo many things , now that I have finally found what works for me I will never be lead down a dubious primrose path again! Thanks for reading!

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