What To Do About Weight Loss Saboteurs?


Weight loss saboteurs are unfortunately common (as well as Life Saboteurs in general!).

I’ve had it happen to me.

Some people would make snide comments about my food choices or imply that I would not be able to keep the weight off. They would sometimes offer me junk food and then be angry when I declined it. The bottom line was that they hated being overweight, were angry and frustrated with themselves, and projected their anger onto me.

Ideally, our friends and family would support us in our efforts to lose weight and be healthier. But sometimes, those closest to you — those you need the most help from — may actually try to cause you to fail at weight loss by undermining your success.

Why it Happens:

Sometimes it’s the person you least expect who attempts to sabotage your weight loss — your spouse, a sibling or your best friend. While this situation can happen for different reasons, it is quite likely that the saboteur finds themselves threatened by your efforts to lose weight.

Here are some scenarios where someone may be reacting out of fear or insecurity:

  •   Friends may think you want to change your life in other ways — maybe you’ll be leaving them out of your “new and improved” circle of friends along with your new, healthy lifestyle.
  • It forces a figurative mirror up to themselves. It makes them look at their lives, and the choices they have made, that they don’t want or are not ready to face.
  • Your spouse may be jealous of or dislike the attention you are getting from other people.
  •   A family member may resent the time you spend exercising or preparing healthy foods (particularly if they partake of neither) when you could be spending time with them.
  •   A friend may miss her “partner in crime” if you often ate together or shared “bad” foods.

So, how do you know a weight loss saboteur when you meet one?

Here are some clues:

Weight loss saboteurs may…

  • Urge you to eat sweet or fattening foods.
  •  Undermine your efforts by making negative comments, such as: “No one ever keeps the weight off!” or “You’ll never make your goal weight. You always quit.”
  •   Continually offer you second helpings of food despite the fact that you say you are no longer hungry.
  •   Keep a watchful eye on everything you eat, make snide comments, or check the fridge or food packages to see if you have eaten “bad” foods in their absence.
  •   Be overly critical of your weight loss methods.
  •   Discourage you from getting regular physical activity.
  •   Belittle or make fun of you.

What to do about it:

If you find that someone in your life fits these characteristics, it is likely you are dealing with someone who — consciously or unconsciously — does not want your weight loss efforts to work. It is important to recognize if someone is making your weight loss efforts harder and not easier; not acknowledging this will only lead to failure and resentment in your relationship. After all, weight loss changes a lot more than just your dress size and you may have to change the way you relate to your loved ones if this becomes a problem.

You must learn to put yourself at the top of the priority list and never let anyone undermine your goals!

Have you fell victim to a Diet Saboteur? How did you handle it? Please share in the comment section below!

I'm PMS-ing…Gimme Some Friggin' Chocolate!!

Ah, those lovely three letters that strike fear in the hearts of men everywhere…

PMS

What is it about those two weeks before her menstrual period that can make an otherwise sane and rational woman want to rip off the top of a bottle Hersey’s Syrup and squirt it directly into her mouth?

The quick answer: A lack of the brain chemical Serotonin.

The quickest way the body knows of jacking that up? CARBS! The simplest, most easily absorbed the better! Carbohydrates are the building blocks for Serotonin.

So, what are we to do?  We don’t want to ruin all our efforts in keeping our insulin levels down by giving in to these cravings but here are some ideas that can help:

First: at the very least, try to make them complex carbs with the highest amount of fiber possible. My favorite fix for this: a baked sweet potato. Mmmm…hits the spot when the PMS-Monster comes a calling.

Second: make sure you are getting enough magnesium.  Here’s a study that shows adequate magnesium intake could help mood changes occurring in women suffering from PMS. Try supplementing 500mg-1000mg starting on day 15 of your cycle until your period starts. Cut back if you experience loose bowels movements (it can be a side effect of extra magnesium).

Third: Exercise.  Yes, at the very time when you least might want to, exercise will increase all the feel-good brain chemicals and help you out of this funk until it passes. Even something gentle like yoga can help you tremendously.

Just remember: Cravings come, and cravings go…This too shall pass!

I’m PMS-ing…Gimme Some Friggin’ Chocolate!!

Ah, those lovely three letters that strike fear in the hearts of men everywhere…

PMS

What is it about those two weeks before her menstrual period that can make an otherwise sane and rational woman want to rip off the top of a bottle Hersey’s Syrup and squirt it directly into her mouth?

The quick answer: A lack of the brain chemical Serotonin.

The quickest way the body knows of jacking that up? CARBS! The simplest, most easily absorbed the better! Carbohydrates are the building blocks for Serotonin.

So, what are we to do?  We don’t want to ruin all our efforts in keeping our insulin levels down by giving in to these cravings but here are some ideas that can help:

First: at the very least, try to make them complex carbs with the highest amount of fiber possible. My favorite fix for this: a baked sweet potato. Mmmm…hits the spot when the PMS-Monster comes a calling.

Second: make sure you are getting enough magnesium.  Here’s a study that shows adequate magnesium intake could help mood changes occurring in women suffering from PMS. Try supplementing 500mg-1000mg starting on day 15 of your cycle until your period starts. Cut back if you experience loose bowels movements (it can be a side effect of extra magnesium).

Third: Exercise.  Yes, at the very time when you least might want to, exercise will increase all the feel-good brain chemicals and help you out of this funk until it passes. Even something gentle like yoga can help you tremendously.

Just remember: Cravings come, and cravings go…This too shall pass!

The Photo That Started It All

We all reach our bottom, that tipping point, the moment we finally come to the realization that enough is enough.

Well, once I saw this photo of me, I knew I couldn’t go on one more second ignoring the fact that I was slowly killing myself.

I was digging my own grave… one spoonful at a time.

How had I let this get so out of control?

Well, years of avoiding: mirrors, being photographed (“No, no, let me take the picture!”), and basically going around feeling like a floating head while trying to ignore what was going on from the neck down is what got me to this place.

We all have that “Aha!” moment, and seeing this photo is what did it for me.

I knew life was too short to live just existing.

I wanted to truly live it! And I knew that meant things needed to change. Change is never easy, but boy is it worth it! I now live a life I only used to dream about. The self-esteem I have now has permeated every facet of my life and has given me the confidence to live my life to the fullest.

It is never too late!

What is it going to take for you to reach your tipping point? Don’t let another moment slip by…do it now. Commit to your health and well-being right now.

YOU ARE WORTH IT!

What A Man With A Name Like "Zig" Taught Me About Motivation

Zig Ziglar. Have you heard of him? Up until a few years ago I had no idea who he was, but I heard a quote from him once 3 years ago that has  stuck with me ever since.

This guy with the quirky name had gotten it right.

I had noticed that each time I had started  one of my million attempts at dieting, it always seemed easy at first, but inevitably, as time went on, it got harder.

Why is that?

Because that initial motivation that brought us to the point of saying:

“Enough! I have to do something about this weight!”

diminishes.

Motivation does not just happen once and we should expect it to sustain us until we get to our goal! No! Rather, it is something that has to be worked on Every Day. 

Even now that I am at my goal, I still have to work on my motivation to keep me here.

Over the years I have learned that Zig Ziglar is one of the most famous motivational speakers on the planet. I love listening to him on my iPod as I get dressed and ready in the morning.  His pearls of wisdom (and sometimes hokey down-home charm) put me in a great frame of mind for the rest of my day.

So, if you are ever lacking in the Motivation Department, do as my friend Zig does and remember:

What A Man With A Name Like “Zig” Taught Me About Motivation

Zig Ziglar. Have you heard of him? Up until a few years ago I had no idea who he was, but I heard a quote from him once 3 years ago that has  stuck with me ever since.

This guy with the quirky name had gotten it right.

I had noticed that each time I had started  one of my million attempts at dieting, it always seemed easy at first, but inevitably, as time went on, it got harder.

Why is that?

Because that initial motivation that brought us to the point of saying:

“Enough! I have to do something about this weight!”

diminishes.

Motivation does not just happen once and we should expect it to sustain us until we get to our goal! No! Rather, it is something that has to be worked on Every Day. 

Even now that I am at my goal, I still have to work on my motivation to keep me here.

Over the years I have learned that Zig Ziglar is one of the most famous motivational speakers on the planet. I love listening to him on my iPod as I get dressed and ready in the morning.  His pearls of wisdom (and sometimes hokey down-home charm) put me in a great frame of mind for the rest of my day.

So, if you are ever lacking in the Motivation Department, do as my friend Zig does and remember:

When Stress Leads To Overeating (Or, Why I Almost Ate An Entire Can Of Frosting Last Night)

Now, why couldn’t someone have given me a heads-up about this yesterday?

Stress comes in many forms and it comes to us all.

Last evening it came to me in the form of being laid off from a job that I truly adored.

Normally, this would have sent me into a tailspin of grief and anxiety, well…it kinda did, but along with that would have came me reaching for my old friend comfort food.

It’s one thing that I know which would have given me a quick “fix” of peace. I found myself instinctually groping around the pantry for the can of cream cheese frosting I knew was hiding back there, just waiting for a moment like this: “There, there, Linda. I’m here for you. I’ll make you feel all better!”

No! I knew that greasy concoction of partially hydrogenated oils and corn syrup was lying!

So, I took a deep breath for a count of 1…2…and out for 1…2…3…4…
and regrouped.

Here’s a handy list of things you can do to calm yourself instead of reaching for food:

  1. Call a friend and vent
  2. Cuddle your pet (my dog Rocco is great for this, but you’ll have to find your own furry friend)
  3. Take a long bath with the phone off
  4. Go for a walk
  5. Drink some herbal tea out of your favorite cup
  6. Write in your journal
  7. Scream into a pillow (wouldn’t want to scare the neighbors!)
  8. Meditate or pray
  9. Relax your jaw and shoulders (we hold a lot of tension here)
  10. Cry
  11. Crank up music and dance
  12. Draw or paint
  13. Get a massage
  14. Hug your partner or kids
  15. Paint your nails
  16. Get outside (just getting out of your house or apartment can make you feel better)
  17. Go out to a movie
  18. Read a book
  19. Do something nice for someone without them knowing
  20. Let it go (I’m still working on this one)

Why We Really Get Fat And What To Do About It

One of the biggest myths perpetrated on dieters (besides “all calories are equal”) is that:

EATING FAT MAKES YOU FAT.

It’s simply not true.

The hormone insulin is what drives fat storage, and what drives insulin? Carbs.

Watch this YouTube video for an easy to understand explanation:

This revelation blew my mind! It explained why I could feel like I needed to eat after a meal when other people seemed full and satisfied. I was starving at the cellular level and high levels of insulin were driving my blood sugar levels so low that I needed to eat again to get them back up to normal.

I was on a roller coaster of highs and lows of blood sugar all day long. When that happens your adrenaline levels shoot up (that’s what causes some people to feel shaky, irritable, and extremely hungry!) and you have no choice but to eat.

This meant my obesity had nothing to do with my character, willpower, laziness, or any other of the thousand things I used to beat myself up over.

It meant I had a metabolic disease.

The treatment?

Cut off the source for the insulin. Cut out the carbs.

Does that mean I never have carbs? No, I do. But, I never have them for breakfast, I never have them without some protein or fat, and I stay away from processed carbs.

Am I always perfect? Nope. But, I feel a heck of a lot better when I make the best choice for my body and that’s what I do 90% of the time.

Remember: Progress, Not Perfection!

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Carb Addiction – Is It Real?


Most people think weight loss is a matter of “eat less / move more”, but for a majority of us there are chemical issues in the brain and body that just don’t make it as simple as all that!

One of them is the fact that carbohydrates, especially refined carbs, are as addictive as crack cocaine and meth. Yes! That’s right! And it’s not me just making that up! Studies have been done that show that carbs act on the same neurotransmitters in the brain as crack and meth, one of them being Dopamine. Dopamine is the “feel-good” neurotransmitter. It’s the same “high” drug-addicts are after. The other neurotransmitter affected is Serotonin, another “feel-good” hormone.

So, how do you know if you are a Carb Addict? Having a craving once in a while is normal, but having to eat carbs to feel good is an addiction. And, guess what? The food industry knows this and exploits this knowledge!

Remember when it was discovered that the Tobacco Industry was purposefully putting nicotine into cigarettes knowing people would become addicted? Well, the Food Industry is doing the same thing with sugar! Read The End of Overeating: Taking Control of the Insatiable American Appetite by David A. Kessler for an eye-opening look into how it is being done.

For me, Carb Addiction is most certainly real and like any other addict I’m one bite away from being right back into full binge mode.
How do I deal with it?
Just like they do…One Day At A Time.

The Number One Way to be Successful at Long Term Weight Loss


The statistics can seem grim. Studies show nearly 65 percent of dieters return to their pre-dieting weight within three years, this according to Gary Foster, Ph.D., clinical director of the Weight and Eating Disorders Program at the University of Pennsylvania. And, statistics for dieters who lose weight rapidly (I lost my 110 lbs in 81/2 months), according to Wellsphere, a website sponsored by Stanford University, is worse- only 5 percent are successful after one year.

What makes the other minority “dieters” successful long term? Most important is: NEVER GIVING UP! I used to be a “All or Nothing” kind of person. I suspect most people with a weight issue are. I would either start off doing something 100 percent perfectly or, at the least setback, see it as a sign of defeat and decide to start again “Monday” then continue to mow through the day with unhealthy eating thinking since today was already shot I might as well enjoy it and start again tomorrow. The only trouble was, “Monday” never came and I kept on this roller coaster of starting and blowing it for years. This did not only contribute to my weight gain, but it chipped away at my self-esteem. But, now I realize setbacks will always happen. We need to expect them, plan for them, and MOVE ON! Immediately! Not tomorrow or the next meal, right then and there! The difference between people who are successful in weight loss (and in life) is that they never, never, never, give up (thank you Winston Churchill). I no longer throw  the proverbial baby out with the bath water. If somehow Oreos magically fall out of the sky and land in my mouth, I now stop, don’t beat myself up over it, and move on. I don’t use it as an excuse to finish the whole sleeve… or box anymore. I’m still not perfect (psst! No one is!) but I refuse to give in and give up. Nope. Not anymore. Not no way, not no how!

What about you? Have you found yourself stuck in “All-or-Nothing” Thinking? Are you ready to stop this seemingly endless cycle of self-sabotage?  It’s not your fault! (say, what?!) Look for my next blog post that sheds light on what’s really going on.

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